If you’re planning to get a divorce, one thing you’ll have to do is announce it to friends and family. That announcement can be as scary as the divorce itself. It’s hard to know how people will react.
It’s safe to say that you should expect a wide variety of responses when you let others know you’re going to divorce. Some may be supportive. Others may be surprised or hurt. People who thought they saw it coming might even congratulate you.
Why do people sometimes say inappropriate things when you tell them you’re going to divorce?
People have all kinds of backgrounds. They might say something inappropriate because it’s what someone told them in the same situation. They might be speaking without thinking about your feelings.
How can you handle insensitive comments about your divorce?
You should remember that everyone needs time to process the grief of a divorce, even those you wouldn’t expect. Friends might feel like they have to choose sides and want to step away from the situation. Your spouse’s family may be concerned about how it would appear to continue reaching out to you.
You can handle this. When things seem overwhelming, it’s important to remember that you can take a step back and take a break. Reach out to those who have been supportive, and feel okay about stopping communication with those who aren’t, at least while your divorce is pending. Take time away from everyone if and when you need it, so you can recharge and think about how to handle the divorce on your own.
Every part of a divorce has its challenges, and this is one that you may face sooner rather than later. Try to focus on your end goal, which is to separate and divorce, and only rely on those who are supportive to you during this difficult time.